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Invite someone to have a friendly 15-30 minute conversation on a topic of which you may not agree.
Choose a relaxing setting and try to be in a calm and rested state of mind.
State that your intentions are to better understand them rather than change their mind.
#4 Fully Listen
Give them your full attention with an open mind. Hopefully you will learn something new or better understand them.
#5 Stay Curious
Ask questions without judgement that will help you understand how they arrived at their views.
#6 Don't Rush
Allow them time to go deeper in their sharing and wait until they are done speaking.
Respectfully summarize their main points to show you understand and thank them for sharing.
#8 Your Turn
If they seem receptive then share your views. Relate your personal experience and understanding of the subject.
Point out areas of agreement or any new or interesting information you learned from them.
Respectfully share any important areas of disagreement and why you believe as you do.
#11 Positive Outcomes
Was there anything you discussed that could lead to mutually beneficial solutions or actions?
Respectfully understanding those you disagree with takes patience and generosity. Your actions make a difference.
Well, I started out down a dirty roadStarted out all alone And the sun went down as I crossed the hill And the town lit up The world got still
I’m learning to flyBut I ain’t got wings Coming down Is the hardest thing
Well the good ol’ daysMay not return And the rocks might melt And the sea may burn
Now some say lifeWill beat you down Yeah, break your heart Steal your crown